The Malaysian style of bitchslapping
Okay. I’m speechless. You decide.
Tsue Ahmed, a female Malaysian blogger, rants on how her fellow countrymen are becoming more foolishly attracted by Indonesian women rather than Malaysian women. Yes, boyfriend issue involved. Eventhough her well-written subliminal angst mainly directed at the insensitiveness of Malay men, she also considers the typical oh-so-Indonesian gracefulness as a big fat lie or a fraud; knowing that Indonesian women tends to wear the heaviest make ups, the sexiest dress to work, and nighties to buy breakfast–and for that reason, Indonesian women are the ones guilty as charged. Especially Bunga Citra Lestari.
My first reaction to the statement: Lelaki Malaysia lebih suka mengahwini perempuan Indonesia kerana kelembutan tingkahlaku was..pungkok aih..Kalau dah gatai..gataila..( my ass)
What does kelembutan tingkah laku (grace) has to with it? I’ve lost my grace since the first day i had to carry my own pail of water when the water supply went hay wire, up to 3 storeys in school, do our own sentries, taking care of the juniors when there were trespassers in the school’s premise, and started seeing the world at the age of 13..I can’t be lemah lembut anymore because there are so many useless man scattering around. The best thing they can do is take advantage of your grace. perkataan LEMAH perlu dibuang, biar lembut. YAng LEMAh tu kaum lelaki, tgk putih, muka macam cina, manja..dah lemah 30 kali. Lupa semua orang di sekeliling. Tinggal apa yang ada, mak, ayah, kawan, adik, abang..
Furthermore, majority Indonesian women around my area are gatal. They wear the heaviest make ups, don the sexiest dress to work, wear nighties to buy breakfast. Aku tak heran kalau perempuan Indon kata lelaki Melayu lebih lemah lembut. Yeah babe, to you guys, and to other graceful woman, their knees will automatically shake, their heads go crazy and irrational, but to us?..Heaven knows. Some of them beat us to death, ta-dah. most of them NEVER helped getting the door opened or gave us seats, when our hands are full. A Chinese guy student gave me a lift when i had to walk to the University under scorching sun, not a MALAY guy. But i guess should i look like Angelina Jolie or BUnga Citra LEstari, then i would have got myself 100 rides to Campus. Kakaka..
Grace is grace, but i have issues with grace and lembik people? I went haywire this one time when i’ve discovered my boyfriend has been giving this chick a ride to town to help her buy bus tickets. HELP her buy bus tickets? I walked, i took my own bus here to get my own ticket, go cross the sea to get tickets, yet another sickening piece of shit girl is hitchriding my boyfriend’s car? (He’s in another far off campus) She should be thankful i was not around, seriously. I’d have bought her a first clsss ticket straight to hell. But that was a long, long time ago, and jealousy counts ;-)
Every woman is fragile. Each is graceful in their own definition. But please do not make this an excuse to liking Indonesian more more than us. But then again, some of Malaysian woman also preferred outsiders, but i personally, i prefer a Malaysian for a husband, and a Malay, plus also, a good Muslim. Dato’ Mashitah tu tak da kerja lain dah ka?
It’s really, really hard to get honest, brilliant Malay guys, nowadays, unless you look like a Superstar. We still have some left in Kedah, but i guess all is taken. How many could recite a decent doa’, i have no idea. But i don’t mind, cos mine can :-)
Awkwardly, reading her other post, she’s not that resentful about Indonesian men.
Nevertheless, i’d like to recommend you, a nobel literature prize nominee, authored by Indonesia’s great novelist, the late Pramoedya Ananta Toer, AROK OF JAVA. My sister bought this book for my 27th birthday, and i’m glad i picked this book upon her recommendation. I’ve always admired Pramoedya’s for his strong will and principt, …
Ahem. Yeah.
Fellow Indonesian women, we may want to introspect ourselves for this social stigma, or at least evaluate on how our TKW have been behaving abroad–knowing that most Indonesian women living in Malaysia are TKW workers. At the mean time, check out a particular Facebook group named Where Indonesian Women Are More than Just Beautiful!. Ms. Tsue Ahmed, if you’re reading this, please do visit Jakarta. We’ll gladly re-define grace for you. Moreover, you shouldn’t blame the infamous Indonesian hotness merely for lousy Malay boyfriends. Why stop at being irrelevant? Take my advice: you really should blame them for causing the global warming as well.
Anyhow, dearest readers, let me remind you that this might be the most stupidest post I’ve ever published on Journal by The Lightbeamers, MD.
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Stupidest post? Or even stupid post? Not at all.
Because she is funny. No, I mean she’s right. In a way. Up to a point. I’ve done some close observation and yes, generally speaking Indonesian women equal grace and brains. A very dangerous combination for men on the loose.
Is this a hyperbole? Well, as a matter of fact my sons assured me they fell for these qualities only – make up and dressing up they consider only to be bonuses. But then, they are men, aren’t they? And men so often are liars in matters of love ( only recently I learned the word “gombal” in this connection), so can I trust them?
Never mind, I second their opinion wholeheartedly. Grace and brains.
But the most of them is brains. On the other hand: the mind is willing but the flesh is weak.
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Dang. It’s not OUR fault that we’re so HOT.
As for the behaviors of our TKW, from what I read on naked traveler’s blog, they are quite… ehm…. embarassing.
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Nice entry. Funny. And yes, I think Therry did hit the nail on the head.
I’ve no opinion to speak of about Malaysian men. Probably they are just men – their minds are willing but their flesh is weak.
But I consider myself an expert on the Indonesian specimen. Indonesian men also are just men. Minds and weak flesh. Or the other way round. As for the women however, generalizing to the extreme, all of them are full of grace and full of brains. Their way of making up and dressing up is non essential, but a very welcome extra bonus.
So, Indonesian powergirrrrrrrrls: go, go, go!
( Warning: These days I’m exploring the word “gombal” which sushihunt recently tried to teach me. Well, did I approximately grasp the meaning?)
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whoa.. her post is kinda a combo of prejudice, stereotyping and discrimination *lol*
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HAHAHAHA..Icha, this is so funny.
i like it much, because i have no idea about these kind of thing..
i dont care much about people mocking Indonesian or Indonesia sih, i do that my self alooot. But in the end, they used to say..i got a good impression about Indonesia now.
so i think the best marketing is made by the satisfied costumer, not by the dissapointed competitor..
infact perhaps, people wouldn’t count on comment from dissapointed competitor at all.
hahaa..you and your upsetness are so funny..
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HAHAHAHA..Icha, this is so funny.
i like it much, because i have no idea about these kind of thing..
i dont care much about people mocking Indonesian or Indonesia sih, i do that my self alooot. But in the end, they used to say..i got a good impression about Indonesia now.
so i think the best marketing is made by the satisfied costumer, not by the dissapointed competitor..
infact perhaps, people wouldn’t count on comment from dissapointed competitor at all.
hahaa..you and your upsetness are so funny..
(in a good term-:)
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Uhm, this isn’t me being upset. This is me blogging!, lol.
If it’s funny, you should compliment Ms. Tsue Ahmed for her sincere thoughts.
Not sure I do understand the analogy of competitors and customers for this particular subject, because the article pointed it out as an issue of culture, at least on how a social stereotype have been set upon us Indonesians.
However thanks for your opinion and good luck on (analysing) the marketing strategy. ;)
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This is an interesting post, I just had a debate with my husband on this subject. He thinks what happened with female foreign workers are not the fault of their own.
I do think that we have power to control what happens to our life and our body. So I am not that all agree with him. He will be involved in the migration aspect of foreign workers in his organization, so I guess he has more detailed information on the statistical situation of those women.
But, I love the post. And hats off to Ms. Ahmed
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I can’t really think of an intelligent comment to the issue at the moment (well it is 1.18 am MST and it’s been a long day) but I just wanted to add that during my awesome 4 year stay in Malaysia I found that Malay girls sure have a soft spot for Indonesian guys.
I’m not sure if that’s because of the physical features, our allegedly “cute” accent, or simply because we are “exotic?”
In any case, as a hot-blooded young male in college it sure was fun to get all the attention!
I just pop in here and ‘ve been tickling with your post title. What is clear that we all now get tingling. Ms. Tsue Ahmed write a statement that typically wrote by a jealous woman. Fully equiped with haphazardly thoughts, misdirection ideas, and judge something just on an average. Very very ridiculous and I wonder if that really written by a sour-face woman like her, ooaahh…:D that’s very cool statement that I’ever wrote. Ever!
I agree with u to let her visit here and we re-define grace gladly, oh my God I can’t wait to see that moment! She could never going back to her country and fall in love with local lousy guys!.. well, imagine that make me sick!
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That’s her opinion, and she’s an overly jealous woman that is sincere,
but you can’t judge all Indonesian woman like that :(
Since I know some graceful one who is worth to die for
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Wow,
her post is quite emotionally charged.
Then again, as she said, “jealousy counts”.
As for the grace and brain of Indonesian women, I only need to glance at my mom and my wife to seek the proof (teehee…)
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